When you exoticize and fetishize someone, it’s actually an example of what’s called a “racial micro aggression”. Say it with me. Racial micro aggression. A racial micro aggression can be defined as “an everyday slight, put-down, indignity or invalidation indirectly targeted toward a marginalized group”. You might be thinking, “But I mean it as a compliment. My intentions are good.” Your intentions, sort of, don’t matter. Chescaleigh has an entire video on that, that you should totally watch if you don’t really know what I’m talking about.
A lot of times, the message that it communicates to the recipient is, “Hey, I think you’re super hot and desirable because you don’t really look like what your ethnicity would lead me to believe you should look like.”